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  <title>Rewards</title>
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  <description>This evening, while I stood in line to order a pair of burritos from the local Chipotle Mexican Grill, I was approached by a young man.  He couldn&apos;t have been much more than eight or nine years of age, but he asked me in a very polite tone and with impeccable diction, &quot;Excuse me, sir?  Do you know what time it is?&quot;  I answered him that it was quarter-past six.  He nodded, moved back to his position in line and I and went back to idly staring at the wall, not really thinking anything of the encounter.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;It turned out that I was right behind this young fellow when he ordered his burrito bowl.  At every step of the ordering process his requests were prefaced with &quot;May I have.&quot;  He wasn&apos;t in a hurry, he knew what he wanted but he never deviated from using &quot;May I have,&quot; at the beginning of his sentences.  At the end, when asked if he would like his meal here or to go he said, &quot;I would like to have it for dine in.&quot;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I&apos;ve stood in line at this Chipotle a few dozen times in the years I&apos;ve been in this neighborhood.  The line has always had a widely varied demographic.  I&apos;ve seen children his age and people three times my age ordering.  I&apos;ve seen adults who were impatient, rude, crass.  I&apos;ve seen children who were unruly, ill-mannered or simply out of control. I&apos;ve seen grown-up mothers lean over the glass sneeze guard to point at ingredients and exhort &quot;More, I want more, give me more.&quot; I&apos;ve seen people be talking into their cell phones gesturing in vague ways at the selection, then yell at the employee when they guessed the wrong ingredient. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I have never seen anybody as well-mannered as this young man-to-be.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;When he finally reached the register and was given his total I told the cashier that it would be my pleasure to pay for his meal.  The cashier stared at me, as did the young man.  I explained, &quot;You were polite asking me what time it was while we were in line.  You were very polite when you ordered, more polite than many people I&apos;ve seen here.  Politeness is bloody rare these days, so you deserve to be rewarded.&quot;  He thanked me, as did an older gent in front of him who may or may not have been a parent, guardian or family friend.  It doesn&apos;t matter.  I wasn&apos;t doing it to impress anybody around me, I was doing it to reward a virtue was see all too little of in today&apos;s hurried, me-centric society.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Okay, so maybe I did do it to impress something on someone.  I did it to impress onto this future politican, this future mechanic, this future engineer that sometimes the world does reward us when we do the right thing -- even if that reward was just a free burrito bowl.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I hope it&apos;s an impression that lasts.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;img src=&quot;https://www.dreamwidth.org/tools/commentcount?user=feren&amp;ditemid=427394&quot; width=&quot;30&quot; height=&quot;12&quot; alt=&quot;comment count unavailable&quot; style=&quot;vertical-align: middle;&quot;/&gt; comments</description>
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  <category>pay_it_forward</category>
  <category>2010</category>
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