Feren's law number 23:

[feren]

Nobody should be in a supermarket when they find out their aunt has passed of cancer that went undiagnosed until two days previous -- this especially should not happen to a cancer survivor.

More frustrating yet is my family is actively discouraging my use of leave from work to fly to Texas for the service.

It's such a fine line

Comments

[yotogi.livejournal.com]

If you want to talk, you know how to find me.

[nekosensei.livejournal.com]

doomsey and I both agree that your family is wrong. I wouldn't say it this way, but doomsey says that, if you want to go, than they have no right to tell you that you shouldn't.

Honestly, I think you should go for the sake of your aunt's family. I'm sure they would appreciate the support. By the way, what part of Texas is your aunt from?

[stryck.livejournal.com]

That seriously sucks.

*hug*

[linnaeus.livejournal.com]

I'm really sorry. If there's anything I can do, whether it's just talking or providing a place for Ra if you end up going out of town, let me know.

[neowolf2.livejournal.com]

Ugh. My mom died less than two weeks after her cancer was diagnosed, but she knew she was in trouble months before that (not that being quicker to see a doctor would have changed the prognosis; the common form of pancreatic cancer is essentially untreatable.) I recall commenting to Holly, a few months earlier, how old she was suddenly looking. I assume your aunt must have had some idea something bad was happening.

[frostyw.livejournal.com]

*hug* I wish there was something more I could do from here, but I'm around if you need someone to talk to.

[youngvanwinkle.livejournal.com]

If you need crash space or a ride in the Dallas area, I'm here for you, just let me know.

[film2edit.livejournal.com]

I'm not quite sure what to say that folks haven't already said. I'm here if you need someone.

[asetwoman.livejournal.com]

Shit, that's horrible. I'm very sorry, Feren, and I hope this isn't triggering too many bad memories and fears for you, but I suspect it is at least somewhat. I also hope you do go to Texas if you feel you need to do that. You already know all this, but it's your decision to go or not to go and not anyone else's.

Take care of yourself. Healing thoughts and sympathy for the sudden loss of your aunt to you and your family.


-A

[roho.livejournal.com]

Yikes...*snug*. You know where we are if you need us.

[riecka.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry Feren.. the otter and I send many *snugs* and *hugs* your way!

My thoughts are with you

[ben-mouse.livejournal.com]

I cannot speak to what kind of relationship you have with the rest of your family, but when my Grandfather on my dad's side passed, I did call the folks and see if they wanted to come home. They too told me that I didn't have to.

I think that came from a number of different places. I think there was a desire for normalcy, a desire for things to continue on at some sort of regular pace. My grandfather was old-old, and his passing was not unexpected, nor on some levels unwelcome.

I guess all I am trying to say is that if your relationship with your family is otherwise good, then you could probably chock their behavior up to the fact that no one really has a handle yet, even after all these thousands of years, on death. If you want to go, and would feel welcomed once you got there, I would go.

[calisi.livejournal.com]

*hugs* So sorry to hear that, Fer. My condolences. :(

[wakkowarner.livejournal.com]

blee. that's awful news.

hope you're doing okay. be safe if you're travelling.

[captain18.livejournal.com]

You have our thoughts, friend.